A nice & Cozy Job

Dear Ladies, 

Today, let me tell you about my official interview with a vampire !

Or rather with a disgusting leech.

Well, a Bezness guy !

So after meeting this guy, I confirm that there is no limit to Bezness imagination in terms of peculiarity...

So we are sitting at a café, and his phone starts ringing.

He quickly looks at the caller ID and decides it is not worth it, so he hangs up.

The phone starts ringing again, about 3 seconds after he hung up. 

So he finally picks up the phone, it must be his girlfriend, because his voice suddenly seems very flirtatious as ge goes "oh baby, I've missed you so much and blablabla", but I guess he does not feel like talking to his girlfriend since he goes "ok honey, I am a little busy right now, I will bip you later ok ? "

When he is done, he takes a sip of his Mint Booga soda and sighs : 

Bezness - oh god, she just won't leave me alone. AND she is greedy as hell, she won't even buy me a fucking perfume.

(I remain silent)

Me - Why would you talk to her that way, I mean, she can't be THAT mean to you.

Bezness - No she is not, but she is sooooo boring AND she won't get married because she is only 19, but, since she keeps coming all the time, I have a hard time meeting the other women.

(He is SO serious, I can't even swallow my drink)

Me -How many "women" do you have

Bezness - Well I don't really keep track, those who come back I consider as my girlfriends, European women.

Me - Well, if I understand, you have other "girlfriends", so why would you keep seeing her if you are so bored and if she is THAT greedy AND won't get married? I don't understand where you are coming from here...

Bezness - Well, one never knows, maybe one day we'll get married. And as for money, I don't need her, money comes from the old women.

Me - How can you feel comfortable with a woman the age of your mother.

Bezness - Please, come on, am I supposed to stay without money or work?

(I guess they don't realize that spending every night at a club and then sleeping until 2 in the afternoon is not compatible with finding a stable and lucrative job.)

So ladies, after months of studying the Bezness guys, I have finally come to the conclusion that if you expect him to "like" you, you must be available, so he can show your text messages to his friends and laugh about it, but more importantly no being TOO available so he feels pressured and still have time to meet other women.

So if you have just come back from Tunisia and are already looking at the flights to go back there ASAP, slow down girl :)

Meet the F*ckers

This is an informative message, which can be useful to any woman in a relationship with a tunisian guy whom she suspects to be a Bezness?

One of the technics they use to make us trust them is to meet the family.

You know, in our European countries, even though we tend to be less conservative, meeting the family remains a symbol of commitment into a relationship.
So then, when we think of the ultra-conservative arab culture, we are more than honored when our luscious boyfriend takes us to meet his family.

And we should be right, because Tunisian guys are not supposed to bring his girlfriend home unless he plans to marry her.
However, rememeber Bezness guys don't really play by the rules, nor do they pay much attention to cultural and traditional beliefs, as long as the "gazelle" can pay, he is willing to take her home.

Most of the time, the family acknowledges this behavior since the "Gazelle" will provide the family with presents, money or even a visa for their son.

So there are different scenarios :

(1) Scenario n° 1 : Modern Man

This guy will not hesitate to take you home to meet his family.
Why is that ?
Because he wants you to believe that he is open to occidental culture.
Well before believing any crap that comes out of the guy's mouth, please remember that Tunisia is a conservative country in regards to relationships, and this is even more true in the Southern regions.
Tunisian families pay a lot of attention to what "people think". Should it be their neighbors, or other members of the family.
Therefore, it is not recommanded that Tunisian guys should have a non Muslim girlfriend.

If your Tunisian Boyfriend invites you to meet the family quickly, (less than a year after the beginning of the reltionship), I advise you to run for your life, and more importantly for your bank account.

(2) Scenario n°2 : The shy guy, really ? 

The fake shy guy will not take you home immediately, he will wait for 4-6 months.
Either because he really fears the reaction of his parents, but more importantly because he wants you to trust that he is not applying scenario n°1, which is easilly recognizable, and supiscious behavior.

However, in the event that your boyfriend is a Bezness, in both scenarios, the first encounter with the family will probably look like this : 

- Don't expect to leave the house without tasting the homemade couscous and mint tea with your boyfriend's mom and sisters..

- The aforementionned mom and sisters will probably look at you like you were the incarnation of the Earth Goddess (but they will talk among themselves in arab so you won't understand, and laugh about your looks or compare you to the other naive girlfriends who sat there before you). 

- It is usually the mother or the older sister, depending on who knows your language best, who will ask you what you do in life, if you have a job, where you live etc..

This does not mean that they are interested in you or in your life, however, please consider the image of you being the (cash) cow and the mother or the sister, being the farmer, evaluating your potential for the family's well being. 

In other words, if you are a good investment or not.

You will probably not meet the dad during those lunches, he probably stays in a different room, watching TV, since he doesn't really care about you or your presence.
Maybe when you start sending Western Union, he will make the effort to come and talk to you..

In conclusion , please, ladies, stop thinking that you are so irreplaceable, and please start to realize that in many cases, you are no more than an investment to help a whole family earn a better life.